Your work often surprises me – but in a positive and specific way.  Sometimes you get right into a topic that has an immediacy for me, but that was just subtle enough that I didn’t realize it had any immediacy for me – if that makes sense.  …. I held this belief that it was my RESPONSIBLITY to  communicate with others so that they understood me.  And as soon as I saw that I believed that, I could start the process of laying that burden down!  I see that I can’t  really control how anyone receives me.  I can do my very best to be clear, but it may or may not be clear to them.