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Writing comes to you from my deepest heart. It feels such an honor to be allowed so deeply into someone’s life. When this person can become aware and conscious of the radiant vibrant truth of themselves, I want everyone to be able to hear their story and to read their own story in it. I love the process of finding the right words. I love finding just the right photos to speak what the words leave unsaid.
Before I sat down to write this introduction, I watched a man and a woman dance the story of the woman’s breast cancer… his support of her, her despair and her joy, their fear, their powerful hope. When they finished there were tears on the faces of all in the audience, and on the faces of the dancers. Hearing, seeing, feeling the truth can bring us to tears and laughter. All of these stories are like this, tears and laughter and wisdom and truth carried in the healing journey of each of the people I have had the privilege of working with and writing about.
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Editorials by Rue:
“It’s Safer NOT To Feel”
Here is an interesting problem that you will certainly encounter if you are an EFT practitioner. You might even notice it in yourself.
In certain situations you might feel anxious, even fearful, and you find yourself metaphorically (maybe actually) curling up, making yourself very small, crying for help—or being very still and quiet—and hoping for a miracle. You feel numb. You might even feel as if you are watching what is happening to you from a distance.
You want to tap for an unhelpful response to a situation, but since you can’t feel what you are feeling, you don’t know where to start or what to say.
Following is an email exchange that I had with a former teleclass participant, asking about numbness:
Dear Rue, I valued listening to your teleclass. I had my issue all in mind, but alas, I never got any feelings about it to measure. This is always how I am. Your volunteer is lucky to ‘feel’ her connection to the problem. How can a person benefit from EFT if there is no emotional recognition in one’s self? Tho I desire to change, and I do all the tapping, I am yet to ‘feel’ anything so there is no reducing the number if it is already zero when it should be a ten. What is wrong with me?!!
I have tapped on being afraid to feel, accepting myself even tho I don’t have the feelings on the conscious level, etc. But I seem to stay the same!
Has anyone else asked you about this ‘defect’???
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Re-Imagine Your Story
Think of how you make your way through your day.
There is probably a (maybe unspoken) question or comment hovering always in the back of your mind.
Is this you? In your daily life, which of these thoughts might be stuck in your thinking:
I don’t have enough_______________
I can’t be happy / successful until I get _______________
People will hurt me unless __________
I can’t let something good happen because _____________
In order to be liked, I have to ______________
GreenBasiliskLizardThe part of our minds that is thinking these thoughts is our “lizard brain,” what scientists call the reptilian brain. This part of our human brain evolved first, and its job is to continually test the environment for danger, food and love (well, sex, anyway), kind of like the snake’s tongue, always flicking in and out, gathering information, testing testing testing. If the lizard brain gets alarmed (and it is very easily triggered) it takes us instantly into one of three fear responses: fight, flight, or freeze.
I think we are all born with a tendency toward one or more of the “lack or attack” thoughts I listed above. They become the story we tell ourselves all day, and all night in our dreams, about who we are and what is (not) possible for us. Lack or attack thoughts become our “shadow.” They limit our actions. They limit our successes. They may be trying to keep us safe, but they cage us.
We seem to have two strategies for our favorite lack or attack stories. We use them as instruments of self torture, or we nurture and tend to them in a weirdly loving way.
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Afraid to Be Who I Am
Would you like to be more visible in the world? … but everything inside you screams “Stop! You won’t be safe! People won’t understand me! They never have.”
Many of you will connect with this email that I got today:
I never realized that I was a highly sensitive individual, but I heard an interview with you, and your words hit me deeply and profoundly. For once, after 49 years, I realized there really isn’t anything wrong with me – I’m just a highly sensitive person – and that has helped me immensely! I am starting to come to terms with that knowledge and I am learning to stop beating myself up.
I have felt that I have lived most of my life at 1/2 speed – afraid to be who I am and use my gifts and talents – too often felt I couldn’t do things – afraid to fail so I held myself back. I have made some progress in my life- I can’t say that my ENTIRE life has been a waste, but I am at a point in my life where I am feeling stuck in fear and have been looking for a partner to help me get past this. Your work, and your deep understanding of my nature feels like it would be a great benefit to my ability to move forward in my life.
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