English Newsletter Archive
Writing comes to you from my deepest heart. It feels such an honor to be allowed so deeply into someone’s life. When this person can become aware and conscious of the radiant vibrant truth of themselves, I want everyone to be able to hear their story and to read their own story in it. I love the process of finding the right words. I love finding just the right photos to speak what the words leave unsaid.
Before I sat down to write this introduction, I watched a man and a woman dance the story of the woman’s breast cancer… his support of her, her despair and her joy, their fear, their powerful hope. When they finished there were tears on the faces of all in the audience, and on the faces of the dancers. Hearing, seeing, feeling the truth can bring us to tears and laughter. All of these stories are like this, tears and laughter and wisdom and truth carried in the healing journey of each of the people I have had the privilege of working with and writing about.
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Editorials by Rue:
When You MUST Be Calm:
Heart-Flow
I was recently in a really difficult situation where I needed to stay calm and resourceful. It wasn’t appropriate to tap outright. I was among people who, seeing something that looked so odd and foreign to them, had the power to make an already sticky situation worse.
I utilized tapping in a unique way that certainly saved the day for me, and possibly created an energy field in which the situation resolved more quickly than it might have.
I’ll tell you the story first, and then tell you how I used EFT in this new way to stay calm and (more or less) centered during a challenging experience.
In July I was on my way to teach an EFT class at the spiritual community of Findhorn in Scotland. This is a non-denominational spiritual and educational foundation where I lived for seven years in the 1970’s and 80’s. I have been returning there annually for a few years to teach EFT.
DarkAngelSunsetArriving at Heathrow Airport in London, I was stopped where you present your passport and your landing card at Immigration, and they ask you questions like “Why are you here?” This point in the process has never been a problem before. But this time I was told to “wait over there.” A long time later someone appeared, and I was taken into the back rooms and hallways of the Immigration authorities.
I was searched, and my personal effects were confiscated (I was allowed to keep only my money and my credit card, “So you can’t claim that we stole money from you,” they said). I was photographed several times, fingerprinted, interrogated by different authorities, some more than once. I was locked up and guarded. They researched my background and that of the Foundation online.
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Heart-Flow »
A Template for Tapping
to Honor the Highly Sensitive Temperament:
Free your S-P-I-R-I-T-E-D Self
When I am tapping with someone, or for myself, it helps me to have a kind of template in the back of my mind to work from. I like having a way to track the information, and a way to hold a general sense of the direction I want to take in the session. This template is also useful when I am talking with individuals, or with groups, about sensitivity.
I found that it was useful to have a mnemonic—a pattern of letters, ideas and associations—that helps me to share what I know in a way that people can understand and relate to.
Here is what I came up with: Free your S-P-I-R-I-T-E-D Self
Imagine that each letter stands for a sort of “basket of information.” This basket contains thoughts, explanations, experiences and beliefs that one could elaborate upon. Each of these elements can become the stem statement for many very useful EFT tapping set-ups.
My template for information about sensitivity:
S – Sensitivity
P – Painful Experiences
I – Identity Beliefs
R – Responses to these beliefs, expressed in your emotions and your body
I – The deeper Intention and message of your physical and emotional responses
T – The deeper Truth in yourself
E – Evidence in your life that the Truth has always been true
D – the Direction that you want your thoughts and actions to turn you toward instead
Self – Care about how you feel! In caring for your Self you are caring for your Spirit.
I keep this mnemonic “Spirited Self” in mind to guide me as I talk or tap.
Continue reading A Template for Tapping
to Honor the Highly Sensitive Temperament:
Free your S-P-I-R-I-T-E-D Self »
“I project my fears
from my childhood
on my own child”
Kathryn was the brave tapping volunteer in a recent complimentary teleclass (http://tinyurl.com/EFTwithRue) Her story seemed quite simple on the surface. She was worried about her 26 year old son, who had moved into his own apartment with 3 other young men. She wanted him to be independent, but she worried a lot about whether he would be OK.
This is what I didn’t know when we began:
When Kathryn was 5 years old a “terrible trauma” (her words) had befallen her suddenly. “I had been going along as a happy energetic child, a cheerful free spirit, and then something dreadful happened out of the blue. After that, I knew that anything could happen at any time, even when things are going fine, and I had to be on the lookout for it, always. It is decades later now, and I still can’t stop worrying.”
We did this whole tapping session without the rest of us on the call knowing what actually happened when Kathryn was five.
It turned out that Kathryn came from a family of worriers. “Oh, Mum’s a worrier,” is what they all said about her grandmother, and her father was a highly sensitive man who had become an unpredictable alcoholic.
I asked her if she had done any therapeutic work around the “dreadful experience.” Was there a lot of emotional response in her when she thought about it now? Or was the problem mostly showing up as the belief in her that “I can’t stop worrying?”
Kathryn said she had done quite a lot of work on the incident, and “It’s mostly the belief now,” she said. “I just have some feelings stuffed down inside about it. It feels like a habit—a way of being or perceiving things.”
It often happens in a tapping session that the person I am working with says something that they themselves don’t hear, as if their unconscious mind is offering a powerful truth to me that needs to be brought to light. I could tell that it hadn’t occurred to Kathryn to connect her constant worrying with her stuffed feelings. As we talked a bit about that, Kathryn said “This thought just popped into my head: Life is not safe.”
That seemed like a good place to start!
Continue reading “I project my fears
from my childhood
on my own child” »
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