Rue's News

February 2007
Volume 1, Issue 5

In this Edition...

• Welcome
• Great Expectations
• Meet Me At The ACEP Conference!
• Claim Your Gift!
• New Teleclasses
  
• Books, Books, Books

Welcome!

Hello Dear Friends -

To all the new subscribers to this letter, thank you for joining this thoughtful, caring community of people who are willing to dream big about what is positive and possible for our world! Please let me know your response to the newsletter, and let me know too what you would like to read about here. I love hearing from you.

Thank you particularly to those of you who have answered the questions I asked about future teleclasses that would appeal to you. If you haven't yet, claim YOUR copy of my ebook,
"OUT, RAGE! 5 EASY STEPS TO FEELING BETTER RIGHT NOW WITH EFT."

Just answer the questions at the end of the online version of this newsletter, and it is yours.

Get more information at http://snipurl.com/expectations

Great Expectations!

I have a friend who does healing work with her friend who has cancer. She said this:

'My friend is Jewish and I am aware of the difficulty of her childhood, with two parents whose childhood was deeply scarred by the holocaust. I wonder if their child rearing practices and the impact on my friend is a component of her cancer.

I have thought of her work towards healing as generational work. I wonder about how the violence her parent's generation experienced ripples out to other generations, how the history of violence that is so much a part of human history ripples out and is manifested as disease.'

What did you expect?

I am powerfully fascinated by the emotional inheritance from our ancestors, and how that determines who we think we are and what we whink we can expect of life.

Haven't we all heard: 'You get what you expect!' And “Who do you think you are!”

What if we are even addicted to our expectations? There is increasing speculation and even scientific evidence that this is true.

Well, if we are going to be addicted, we might as well choose some good expectations to be stuck to, right? So why don't we just start out with a positive life view? Why do so many of us remember being sad as children, and now are sad—or angry—adults?

How do we get to an inner place of saying, 'This is a false identity, not the true, healthy, me'?

What are YOU expecting? And... what makes you think that?

All of us who do EFT are, consciously or unconsciously, doing constant research on the effect of our expectations on our minds and bodies, and how to change them. Our tapping sends messages of healing and transformation across space and time.

I received this evocative, thoughtful email along these lines from my client Mischa (not her real name), a couple of weeks after her first session. I had invited her to share some of the reflections that arose in her after we did our work together.

Mischa’s email (all the words until the next headline are hers)

“I wanted to share something with you that I read in your book that generated a powerful charge in me - enough to bring a big lump into my throat as I read it. This is the quote from your book:

‘We are born into a family story about 'the way it is supposed to be.' So even in the womb, we are literally surrounded by and absorb the effects ofbody, mind, emotions and spirit at the cellular level of her body, our host. We feel the effects of our father's family story in our DNA, energetically, and in our mother's responses to him, even before our birth.’
(The 8 Master Keys to Healing What Hurts)

“So what was going on when I was in the womb? Well, my mother had blood clots threatening her life and the doctors strongly urged her to have an abortion as the medication they had available to treat her wasn't safe during pregnancy. My mother obviously chose not to abort and all turned out well in the end, but what feelings must have flooded her—and me?

“What's more intense than literally having your life on the line? The fear—for her life, for mine, for what would happen to my four older siblings if anything happened to her. Maybe anger, that she should find herself in such a situation—and maybe sadness, for the same reason. I literally owe my life to my mother in more than purely biological way.

“And my father. Childhood in wartime Europe, his own father away in the army, deported, literally seeing bodies floating down the Elbe River, ten years or so in the oppressive Communist regime in East Germany and two relocations following that. Life WAS about resigning oneself to harsh realities, hunkering down and surviving.

“What does it mean to be in survival mode?

“It means you have to do what's necessary at the moment, regardless of how you feel.

“It means you have to swallow feelings that don't serve necessity.

“It might mean that you have to avoid attracting attention.....'keep a low profile.'

“It might mean that you have to avoid displeasing someone in power.

“It means IT'S NOT SAFE TO BE YOURSELF.

“How much of my behavior was about who I really am and how much of it was about survival? Looking at it as objectively as one CAN look at oneself, I think it was both.

“Is that where the pattern formed of wanting so badly to make someone else happy? Is this the origin of my love/hate relationship with responsibility and meeting other people's expectations? I think there must be at least a connection for me to have felt such an emotional jolt when I read that paragraph in your book.

“I think there's a little girl part of me who still thinks there's a kind of equation I can benefit from: Make other people happy and THEN you can be yourself, because you'll have the love that you need. It's really about love.

“But if you think you have to earn love, then it is always in the background that YOU are not really loved, that it's the performance you're giving that's really garnering that praise and affection that you need.

“I feel guilty because really, I know that my parents loved and do love me. There's a mountain of evidence that proves their love and good intentions. So how did I manage to take that niggle of insecurity out of it, along with many undeniably good things?

“Part of me thinks there must be something wrong with me to feel pain or angst in the first place.”

The Truth of Us

I (Rue’s voice now!) suspect that all the (often unconscious) obscuring beliefs, actions, positioning, and emotions flow from our emotional inheritance, the experience of our ancestors. All our scramblings to survive distort the knowledge of our own sacred uniqueness, even— or maybe especially—from ourselves. We do this for all kinds of reasons, I think, but they all add up to not feeling able to be who we really are in the world safely.

But somehow, way behind our sense of unworthiness, and obscured from view, especially our own, I believe there is actually a pure sense of our own perfection and radiant beauty. It is the blueprint for who each of us is in our own uniqueness. The distortion is like an identity that we are wearing. It is not the truth of us.

What Makes us frame our experience negatively?

In my book This is Where I Stand, I tell the story of when I first made up “The World is My Oracle” technique.

I asked myself this question:

“What makes us frame our experience negatively?”

Then, I told the Universe that for the next 20 minutes I would pay close attention to what caught my awareness.

I held that intention on the drive home in my car.

Right away on the way home I saw a billboard that said “Overworking your heart?”

Then I saw a bumper sticker that said, “If you praise your kids they will bloom.” (The reverse implication being, of course, that if you don’t praise your kids, they will wilt!)

And then I went by a movie theater with a double feature that ran two titles together looking like one, a most evocative thought: “IMAGINARY HEROES BORN IN A BROTHEL”

I laughed as I put all these thoughts together into the world’s answer to my question:

Here we are, sensitive, bold, bright, beautiful sovereign beings from the imaginal realm, coming to be the shining heroes of our own story and that of the planet—and then—yikes—we’re born into a bewildering environment of distorted concepts of love, power and purpose!

Doing our best, battling our inner demons with faith and courage... overworking our hearts, believing that we are not up to the desperate task of protecting our spirit in an unsafe unfriendly universe. And poor us, never having gotten enough praise ourselves, from parents who never got enough praise, because our grandparents never got enough praise, we wilt.

On the whole, the world doesn’t know yet that The very universe blooms when any of us smiles.

Well, hey, thanks universe, I thought to myself. Very interesting answer!

Smile into your body

The ancient Taoists have a practice of smiling down into their bodies toward specific organs. So take a moment to imagine that smiling on your life is a vitally generative sacred act that calls upon the deepest sovereignty of your being. Imagine that the blueprint of you describes all your strength, all your love, your largest vision of the future, your most heart-felt trust, all the best qualities of the best that’s in you.

And imagine that the Earth itself has called YOU here, to live this life for exactly this purpose, on behalf of us all; on behalf of the evolution of consciousness.

The Biology of Belief

In his book The Biology of Belief, Bruce Lipton tells a great story about a study done by the Baylor School of Medicine, published in 2002 by the New England Journal of Medicine. The surgeon doing the study was trying to figure out which part of the surgery he was performing for people with severe and debilitating knee pain was giving his patients relief.

In the first two groups he did standard treatment procedures. In the third group he sedated the patient, talked and acted just like he would if he was doing the surgery, but didn’t actually do anything, and then stitched the patient up. All three groups had the same post-op care and physical therapy, and the placebo patients weren’t told for two years that their surgery had been fake.

Amazingly (or maybe not), all three groups improved equally! One man, who was walking with a cane before the “surgery” now plays basketball with his grandchildren. Obviously these people all expected to get better from surgery! But how much of their improvement had to do with the surgery?

What we believe is true, is. What we expect will happen, does.

Step Off the Beaten Path

Create a magical tapping routine
...for yourself, AND for your ancestors

I invite you to to create a transformative EFT tapping routine for yourself. Pick out all the ideas and phrases in Mischa’s letter and in my comments that struck you, and add ideas and phrases from your own experience. Also add what you know or guess about of your parents’ experience, and your grandparents’, and your great grandparents’, and... Use your imagination.

Sometimes, begin your set up statements with “Especially because...” instead of “Even though”. Notice what feels different when you do that.

Here are some examples:

ESPECIALLY BECAUSE I probably inherited my mother’s fear—for her life, for mine....and ESPECIALLY BECAUSE I inherited her anger and her sadness that she should find herself in such a situation, I AM CHOOSING TO REMEMBER my true story: that I am a sensitive, bold, bright, beautiful sovereign being who has been called here on purpose!... to be a source and force for love and goodness for myself that will flow from me as a blessing into the future.

I LOVE AND ACCEPT MYSELF AND I KNOW THAT I AM SAFE NOW.

And ESPECIALLY BECAUSE my father’s life was about resigning himself to harsh realities, hunkering down and surviving, I HONOR MYSELF for the conflicts that this has set up for me in my own life, and HONOR MYSELF for how hard that has been, and I AM CHOOSING NOW to change history! I AM CHOOSING to find ways to break free of those ancestral conflicts, and free myself to make decisions that support my deepest well being.

I LOVE AND ACCEPT MYSELF AND I KNOW THAT I AM FREE NOW.

ESPECIALLY BECAUSE a part of me has thought that I have to earn love, and it is always in the background of my thoughts that I am not really loved, that it's the performance I’m giving that's really garnering that praise and affection that I need, I ACCEPT this part of me, I ACCEPT that it feels this way, and I AM CHOOSING NOW to focus on the blueprint of me, the essence of me carries all my strength, all my love, my largest vision of the future, my most heart-felt trust, and all the best qualities of the best that’s in me! I am doing this on behalf of myself and all my ancestors.

Feel free to have great expectations!

Our ancestors’ experiences ripple down through the ages to us. Remember, we are the ancestors of our future.

The healing we accomplish flows across time and space, and it can change everything.

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Come To A Great Conference

I will be presenting at the next ACEP Conference in April. This is a great opportunity to meet people who are interested in the same things that you are, and to learn about this fascinating new field.

Learn more here: http://snipurl.com/ACEP2007

The Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology Presents the Ninth Annual International Energy Psychology Conference

Main Conference - April 19-21, 2007
Pre- & Post- Conference Seminars - April 18 & April 22–25

PLENARY SPEAKERS
Rupert Sheldrake, PhD
Christine Page, MD
Her Holiness Sai Maa Lakshmi Devi

50 BREAKOUT SESSIONS - Organized into 10 Tracks

• Fundamentals of Energy Psychology
• Spirituality & Consciousness
• Specific Populations - Specific Approaches
• Developing Your EP Business
• Children, Couples & Family
• Integrating Theory Research and Practice
• Integrative Energy Psychology
• Developing the Person of the Therapist
• Provocative Panels & Live Demonstrations

Mark your calendar for the July EFT Master Showcase!

You are one of the first to know about this!

The next EFT Master Showcase will be in Denver, Colorado, July 19-21. I will be one of the presenters. I hope you will come. It will be announced soon in the EFT newsletter from www.emofree.com. I will be selling my books there too.

If you will send me an email answering the following questions (briefly or at length), I will send you an ebook I wrote called Out, Rage! 5 Easy Steps to Feeling Better Right Now with EFT .

• What is your idea of the very best teleclass ever?
  
• As a sensitive person, what concerns and issues do you most want help with resolving?
  
• Would you prefer regular monthly teleclasses, or a theme-based 5 week series?
  
• If you attend the teleclass or just purchase the recording, would you prefer it to be a downloadable MP3 (to play on your computer or iPod) or would you be willing to pay an additional $10 to have a CD sent to you?

New Teleclasses

Turn Trouble into Treasure!

Did You Inherit Your Family MIS-Fortune?
Re-Invest it!

Does the thought of getting together with your family send waves of anxiety through you?

Would you like to learn how to manage your emotional reaction to ________ (fill in the blank with a person or a situation!)

Many of us dread family gatherings, where all the old painful patterns are played out once again. Almost any anger, frustration, or self-critical thought that we experience as humans can be traced back into our childhoods. And when you think about it, our parents' experience as children themselves led them to act the way they did to us. And that means that their parents had a similar upbringing. The worries and pains and problems that dog us go way back into our ancestry.

Practice the powerful innovative way of using EFT above, and learn lots of other creative ways to use EFT to change your life with me and other people you will enjoy interacting with in a teleclass.  Click here for more information: 

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NEW BOOKS!

I love sharing the stories of the deep power of change in people's lives. These books are my way of giving a voice to that force of goodness flowing through our humanity.

If you are a practitioner of EFT, or any modality, for that matter, these books will help you to expand your  perception, imagination and creativity to enhance your skill.

Read more at http://www.intuitivementoring.com/EFTbooks.html

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