Martha is a therapist who is having trouble “putting herself out there” in the world. She has some beliefs that are holding her back:

“I can’t make it in the world on my own,”
“I have to work for good things to come to me,”
“I don’t want to make the effort.”
“I am afraid that I will run out of money and I won’t know what to do.”
“I am gripping tight to the little piece of the pie that is mine.”
“If you are going to be charging money you had better be doing
good job!” (her father’s voice)

Martha wants to incorporate EFT into her work, and she has some good creative ideas about how to do that. But she keeps finding herself sabotaging her own efforts.

The sabotage comes down to a conflict: “I feel like I am a four year old stuck in an adult’s body!” she said. “I want to do what I want to do. But something in me feels like I have to be what ‘they’ want me to be. Ever since I was a child I have had to meet other people’s expectations in order to get attention or love.”

A part of her was feeling collapsed, sad and frozen, while another part was feeling defiant. “It is a ‘toxic embrace!’” she said.

Whenever there is an inner conflict like this, an excellent EFT strategy is the Nine Gamut procedure. This process in EFT is really good for “unsticking stuck stuff,” helping the brain to
re-consider and re-prioritize the elements of a conflict that is holding the person in a freeze state. It is a brain balancer, and helps to harmonize all of our thoughts, emotions, and the flow of energy in our bodies.