I was thinking about the question “What does it mean to heal?” as my client “Petra” talked about the class she is taking to help her build her EFT practice.

Petra really loves EFT, and wants to give presentations. But she is afraid that she will stiffen up and sound like she is giving a history report or an explanation. “I am afraid that I will be too careful, too planned out, not spontaneous. I will just talk about ‘this is how EFT works,’ and I won’t be able to access my passion about this work, how important it is to me. I am afraid of being rejected. And then I will be BORING. ”

“As a child, my voice got lopped off at the bootstraps,” she said. bootstraps“My voice was not ever accepted in my home. It was always judged. They would give me this look, rolling their eyes, saying ‘What planet did you come from?’ I could feel their energy recoiling physically, away from me. I would wonder, ‘What did I do?’

Every time I began to speak as a child my mother would make a karate chop motion in front of my mouth and say ‘Don’t talk!’ I felt beaten, hurt and confused, and I didn’t know why. So my true voice became an inner voice. I had all this emotion caught in my throat. My outward voice showed up as an angry voice.”