Every January we so earnestly resolve to "be better." Lose weight. Stop smoking. Be a nicer person. We tell a well worn story about ourselves that is full of our flaws and failures, and we make New Year’s resolutions. Again.

The problem with New Year’s resolutions is that we always start with wanting to be different. By "different" we probably mean "less bad."

We may not stop to think about how it makes us feel to tell ourselves how bad we are. In fact, isn’t that negative self talk possibly what drove us to smoking or over-eating or workaholism in the first place? Trying to cover up and numb out those old painful feelings?

I want us to use EFT to help ourselves to be better at being more of who we already are – that is, more of the evolving goodness inside us, right here in each moment.

I loved how Liz Gilbert, in her recent book "Eat, Pray, Love," described finding help. She was lying on the bathroom floor in the middle of the night, yet again in the depths of despair about her failed life, asking for inner help, maybe for the first time.