No matter what issues we are dealing with, learning to elicit the positive intention in a person or a situation is about the most powerful, heartening spiritual practice I can think of.

You  probably have heard about "psychological reversals," or "emotional saboteurs."  Maybe you know that the beginning set-up statement in EFT is designed to treat these reversals.  They tend to show up disguised as the problems in our lives.

At some point in our personal history, a particular behavior, symptom, or belief system appeared to be the best or safest or maybe the only option available to us. It may still be operating in us now. It feels like who we are now, our identity.  We don’t question it.  We soldier on with it. Maybe we got so used to doing/seeing/feeling that way that we didn’t even notice when the saboteur began to cause more trouble than it solved.

But deep inside this behavior or thought or pain, there still glows the need and desire and deserving of the safety and fostering that we are still trying to get for ourselves.  It is showing up distorted into a problem now, but there is goodness at its center.